The Problem with Expectations

Unrealistic and unexamined expectations are at the root of some of the gnarliest (and most common) problems that we face as entrepreneurs, leaders, and helping pros. Our behavior is impacted by the expectations that we and others hold, so if we don’t clearly assess these expectations, we can make choices that aren’t in our own…

How to Navigate through your Growing Pains as a Helping Professional

Becoming a successful helping professional would be so much easier if you were told exactly what to do to make it all work out. So often we get thrown off course by the growing pains or obstacles that are actually fairly predictable.   Here are some of the common growing pains I see at each…

How to Build Trust With Those Who Matter

As children, our initial instincts are to trust whole-heartedly, with naïve abandon. Our very survival requires that we have trustworthy caregivers to nurture us as we grow. However, over time disappointments and betrayals can build up, making us very cautious with our trust. “Do you trust me?” This isn’t a question we take lightly. So…

How to Pursue Excellence Like an Olympian

This summer has been filled with observing excellence, almost every day. It was awesome! I was definitely sad to see the Olympics come to a close. (Although I’m glad to actually be getting to bed at a reasonable hour now…) While watching the coverage every night, I found myself paying close attention to these amazingly…

Self-Reflection (from the archives)

The process of understanding yourself can be challenging.  Sometimes we aren’t honest with ourselves.  Sometimes we don’t see the whole picture.  Sometimes we see exactly what is there, but fight against it.  That being said, it is important to do your best.  Only when you know what makes yourself tick, will you be able to…