How many times have you heard or said that things are just too complicated? I know I have said it many times and I can’t count how many times my clients have said it. As we move forward along our paths, things seem to get muddier and more complex. It can get quite overwhelming. How…
The process of understanding yourself can be challenging. Sometimes we aren’t honest with ourselves. Sometimes we don’t see the whole picture. Sometimes we see exactly what is there, but fight against it. That being said, it is important to do your best. Only when you know what makes yourself tick, will you be able to…
There are so many excuses that keep us from moving forward: “I want to make sure it is just right,” or “I need more time to develop skills,” or “The timing isn’t quite right.” These excuses hide our fear of change and of stepping outside our comfort zone. We try to protect ourselves against all possible negative outcomes before…
“I’m so burned out!” “I’m exhausted.” and “I just need to make it to the weekend.” These should be red flags, but are often just the response to “How are you doing?” Burnout is rampant for so many people. How do you avoid it? How do you recover? Take care of your health. Now, I…
So, 2014 has started. The ink on our New Year’s Resolutions have dried and we’re trying to make them work in the real world. The holidays are over and we have no more excuses. Determined folks are still soldiering forward, seeing how long they can sustain this new and exciting motivation. On the other hand…
For whatever reason, the past couple weeks I have been talking to a number of folks about jobs that just weren’t a fit for them. There are mixed stories. Horror at being fired or waiting too long to leave and triumph at leaving early enough to avoid pain and suffering. How do you know if you are…
So, I didn’t get a new blog post out for April. I had previously set a goal for myself that I would post something once a month around the 15th. I didn’t get overly structured, but I had been doing pretty darn well until last month. What happened? The old “I don’t wanna, you can’t…
Balancing work and life is extremely challenging. I want to say that again. Balancing work and life is extremely challenging! I am repeating myself because, as I troll through Facebook and self-help spheres, it seems like if you just do a few simple things, you will get it and be forever blissful. Poppycock! (Sorry for the outmoded expostulation. Just…
As human beings, we have natural instincts that help us to survive. The primal part of the brain (the brainstem, to be technical about it) takes care of these instincts. You know the brainstem is working because you don’t have to think “breathe in, breathe out” all day to remember to move oxygen through your body. A…
Stop! You can say No!! It’s been a long time since I’ve written something new. Why’s that, you ask? Well, I’ve been taking care of some basics. But it’s really hard to slow down because it requires me to say “no” to a lot (and I wasn’t always successful). Why is saying “no” so hard?…